One of the perks of being married (or having a longterm partner) is getting to observe someone close up who was brought up differently, with different genetics and different early experiences. It’s fascinating. Jeff and I are very similar in many ways. Similar taste in music, TV, movies, people. Similar beliefs. No doubt we’ve also influenced a lot having known each other for 20 years. (Wow, I only just realised that!)
Anyway, the one thing that is VERY different about us is the speed with which we write an email. Doesn’t matter if it’s a very important, formal email or a quick “hey”, Jeff will sit on the task for what I consider to be an inordinate amount of time. I sometimes sit perched next to him after he’s run an email wording past me chanting “send, send, send” like a wifely banshee. I annoy even myself! But he is patient and doesn’t hesitate to leave the draft that bit longer and send it when he’s ready.
There are some things that I’ll do on the spur of the moment and many that I too leave to ferment in my mind before acting. Such as eating healthier. This task takes many months of saying goodbye to every conceivable dessert a few times before I act. But with other things, such as deciding I wanted to create a solar system out of melted breadtags and have a solo exhibition at a certain gallery in Sydney. I came up with the idea on the spot when Jeff asked me what project I wanted to do next and then proceeded to do it over the next 6 months. Very satisfying.
Something that I always leave to ferment so long that it’s almost no use thinking of it at all is any idea for a documentary or a radio documentary. I can take a photo as fast as anything, but because I have a residual fear of failure from my film school days about creating docos, I can’t bloody act on an idea. It’s frustrating. Can you please be my witnesses that I must ferment no longer on this and need to just START one?
K thx bye.